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What kind of education can be imparted by a person who cannot even watch his own behavior?

Posted by Rewa Smriti on August 3, 2017

It’s been 6 years now, we have lost Iqbal sir and since then JNVK has changed so much. Over time, his loss became more acute for JNV Katihar. Within few year, result went down. Forget result, Navodaya is more than this! Not only result, if truth be told, the whole school environment and morality is deteriorating day by day which is unfavorable for a residential school culture.

Few months back when I heard some indigestible news about unethical actions from few of my juniors that disturbed me a lot and I couldn’t stop myself to visit the place, where I have spent golden days of my life.

It is highly unethical and immoral! Any principal or higher authority of any school, be it new or old for the campus, having the administrative powers of entire school, should be more responsible towards his/her action. They must have ethics and moral values by virtue. Nevertheless, nowadays, the people who are newly posted in school to lead the administration are lacking the moral value and character. It is sad that,they are not aware of residential school culture and its values.

Most administrators spend a most of their time dealing with school discipline and behavior. It seems few spiritless people have joined educational institution and have their own axe to grind as they don’t have any other options. Such people will never be able to impart a quality education to students when they themselves don’t know what they are doing. When you don’t have a moral value to play in front of children/students, you don’t deserve such a dignified place for your unethical activity.  We respect and value our teachers and it’s not honor that one can “demand” for, but something that has to be “earned”!!!

What kind of education can be imparted by such a person who cannot even watch his own behavior???? Misuse of powers at such a position should be acted upon very strictly by higher authorities. But I don’t know why they are unable to act accordingly.

Schools are the ideal places to inculcate values in our children, including how to build ‘CHARACTER’ and make good choices down the road. There are some people who may have some goodness in them, they have a certain code of morals and values that they live by, and this keeps them “grounded”.

I strongly feel that the culture of a school determines the frequency of successful students. Any School would always be interested in three kinds of outcomes: “Skills” to be able to do something, “knowledge” to be able to differentiate between right and wrong, and “Character” to develop good habits and virtue.  Most importantly, it’s about promoting ethics, values, and behavior in building a positive and productive person.  It’s everything we do that influences the kind of human beings we become.

This is ironical that some pathetic people are there to build character of the students.

I always believed and followed “Don’t respect person or position, Respect BEHAVIOUR!” I will forgive anything you do in your life, because it doesn’t matter to me. However, if any of your action leaves negative impact on the campus, we the alumni of Navodaya will be shameful for such people/administration/higher authority. We always make sure that they hear our say and will do whatever we can to make things right.”

We have decided not to hide anything so that other people get benefit of it and raise their voice against immoral acts.

Hami Navoday Hon…

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My right might be your wrong, if I revolt, will you call me a rebellious?

Posted by Rewa Smriti on July 21, 2017

I came across this statement: “Independent women today have no patience”. Though there is nothing new in it, but the surprising part is that this was given by a woman to my friend”s husband. This mentality in today’s world, I really feel very sorry for her.

I don’t know if she has a declaration of Independence “signed” by somebody (may be her husband)! Think seriously!! Do we actually need somebody to define that we are free? I somehow felt that she was defending herself in the name of dignity. Does she really have dignity? Or, she has a concern that independent women are capable of raising their voice or to deal with the ego which some men have?

She must understand that a real and right relationship, It will only make you feel more like yourself, MORE PATIENCE, more independent and more certain of who you are! Strong, independent women have the ability to let mistakes roll off their backs and to learn from their bad choices patiently. And being Independent myself, I personally do not need anybody to declare that I am an “Independent and free.” Some say, “free will” is an illusion at best; I thoroughly disagree!

Some advice-givers would like to take the role of ‘more knowledgeable person’ in the society. I fail to understand the mentality of these so called ‘progressive thinkers’ who have absolutely no idea what the world is beyond the doors of their air-conditioned walls? It does not matter whether you are in New Delhi or New York, if your thinking does not change!

A woman, who uses her own mind to take any decision, is viewed as being wrong. I know, mostly girls are raised with one single goal and that is to get married and stay married, no matter what! No education teaches that, in fact independence is something which can be considered as the biggest gift of “Education” to women. If patience means to bear atrocities, then it is better that independent women do not have it. However, I read an old saying somewhere “patience is virtue”, I did not know that the virtue means bearing atrocities, tolerating wrong doings, getting humiliated, yet giving respect to all.  😆

Moreover, Few women got happiness does not mean everybody is leading the same good life, but ask yourself, by making unnecessary adjustments, are you really happy? It’s very easy to interfere in others life and comment on something like this. Open your eyes and look around there are many women keeping “Patience” and getting killed or committing suicide at the end. Now tell me… how would you describe patience???????

Always give it a thought – how many women around you are really happy? At least independent women have choice. What choice do house hold ladies have, if they are keeping the “above mentioned” patience, they also have to think about being “Independent” to take care of themselves and their children at some stage. (I do respect all home makers and I am grateful for their contribution, but if they smile, it does not mean they are happy!)

Find below few stories of “patience” … You will come to know the limit of patience in an independent woman. I still could not believe she is not there anymore Ruchi we will miss you... There are many such women we have lost. I don’t know how to act or react on this. However, I wouldn’t call it an act of cowardice; it takes courage to end your own life!

To quote another example- my own friend,though she was a working woman, got beaten on many occasions, still kept patience and waited that everything will be alright, but faced the same fate, got divorced recently and taking care of her only child. Yea, there is a plus point that she received full support from her parents. It’s not the question of being independent or dependent, when it comes to patience, every woman is almost the same.

Sometimes even her own parents do not support her because of the society. Another of my acquaintance went to the extent of committing suicide because of patience as her own parents did not support her. The point to be noted here that she was shattered but her parents chose to be with society, instead of supporting her and kept telling her that everything will be alright. Result?… she is no more now.

If you want more examples – just Google it!!! 🙂

If society had been so generous, women wouldn’t have to leave their house and children to be independent. Widen your horizon before commenting on anything. The world is not restricted to your surroundings only.

No matter our situation or status we all always have choices. How we make our choices obviously differs from person to person, but the option to choose is within everyone. I firmly believe we create our own reality, the choices we make in life provide us with our experience.

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Your small contribution can save life of Narasimha!

Posted by Rewa Smriti on May 19, 2017

Dear All

As you all know, our brother Narsimha, a fellow navodayan from JNV Medak (1991-98), met with tragic accident two years ago which resulted in amputation of his leg and an infection in kidneys, lungs and spinal cord. He is from poor, agriculture dependent family and is father of three kids. His brother died recently in another unfortunate incident who was the sole earner and financial supporter of his family.

Inherently, we know we are navodayans and we have been designed to live for something greater than ourselves. Our greatest successes in life are often found in helping others. Narasimha needs our help in order to get better treatment and continue supporting his family. It will be a shame to see a navodayan lose his life due to lack of money. So, please come forward and join hands together to help him survive in whatever way you can and your support will give hope to him and his family. We truly appreciate your help and efforts in helping Narasimha!

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Someone has rightly said that “Nobody can do everything, but everyone can do something”. It is in fact the collective effort of everyone to make small contributions with a lot of heart. Little efforts count, and you don’t have to be concerned about making small contribution as everyone’ small contribution will collectively be a big one. And it is the effort that counts!!!

Some donations have come to the account of Rajkishor and Narasimha while some of have donated through other channels including Milaap. Additionally, the details of contribution made till now are given below:

We request all our JNV Alumni, family and friends to help raise the minimum required amount of Rupees 500,000 to meet his treatment costs.  At the same time, we would like to extend our heartfelt thanks to all of you who have been supporting this cause.

You may donate online or through our many other ways like through Paytm # 9619500732. We have made it easy to help in ways that work for you.

For contribution, the account details are:

Name: Rajkishor Rajak

SBI A/c: 10426086232
SBI Branch Code: 11672
IFSC CODE: SBIN0011672
SBI Branch Name: Link Road, Mulund Branch, Mumbai

Email id: raajkishor@gmail.com
Mobile Number: 9619500732

You may directly transfer to JNV Wargal Alumni A/C as well:

Name: JAWAHAR NAVODAYA VIDYALAYA WARGAL ALUMNI
AC NO: 50100197873490
RTGS/NEFT IFSC Code: HDFC0000021 or HDFC0004684
HDFC BANK, ALLWYN COLONY
MIYAPUR BRANCH
HYDERABAD

Note: Please email/call/sms once any amount is transferred, if possible. We will publish details of all such transactions as we have been doing so far.

For clarifications and any other details, Please call on: Ramesh # 7032903999.

At last, nevertheless, I would like to thank all our coordinators for their great coordination and support. Keep it up!

Regards.

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Don’t try to criminalize working Mothers!!!

Posted by Rewa Smriti on May 11, 2017

“How can I convince my wife to leave her job to raise our child?”

The above question is asked by somebody in Quora and I liked the response shared by  Shweta Sharma an alumnus of JNV Jojawar. I am quoting her reply below:

Here is how, Don’t!

There is a possibility she might already have considered it, analysed the scenario at her work place and decided against it for some valid reasons. Getting back to workforce is not as easy as sounds. If one of you can get extended leaves, great. If not, try seeking family support if possible. I agree that leaving an infant with nanny does not sound like the perfect solution. But try thinking this from her perspective. Now you have not mentioned what industry she works in, but at some work places the competition is cut throat. I have spend good one year out of the work force and I know the toll it takes on your confidence and skills. Unless she expresses the desire to quit her job for sometime herself, try not making things difficult for her.

I am not a mother yet, but I have seen working mothers very closely. I cant even express the guilt they carry all the time. The guilt for not being a good wife, for not being there when the kid needed them, for not spending every waking second with the kid! Chances are, she is already having post partum depression. It is important to get the support system robust for the time being. I agree that the kid needs much attention, but as selfish as it sounds, you guys were spouses first and parents later. Listen to her. She might have good reasons to continue to work. She might have insecurities about leaving work which she cant voice. In any case, this decision should come from her. Ideally this is something couples discuss before the situation arises. But now that you are already on the field, don’t lose that team spirit. God knows you will need it when the kid will be a teenager. Both of you will have to put in efforts to raise the kid and both of you will have to support each other.

Most of the days, on my way to work I see a woman with her baby. The baby girl is around 6-7 months old. The mum takes the baby with her, drops it in day care and on her way back, gets the baby along. It is such a lovely sight! It helps that it is a happy baby! She keeps all of us engaged, waves around to everyone, blows kisses, keeps giggling. But most of all, the baby and the mum, they just seem so happy to see each other! It just melts our hearts every time we see them. Once I had to change my route and catch the train at the stop where they start. The kid just could not stop kissing her mum, and the mum reciprocated. Of course, the kid cooled down in some time and her attention was shifted to showing her mum all things interesting, like her fingers or the hoarding or a passing train! That is the kind of relationship you want with your kid! Not one where a dissatisfied human being hoovers over the kids’ heads to prove to be a good parent.

Take your time to understand this new situation, give your wife sometime too. Be really careful about this nanny thing, take all steps necessary to ensure the person you are leaving your kid with is reliable.

There is a pearl of wisdom I got from one of my previous managers, “when you will be a parent don’t forget to be a wife. remember he was there first, and he will be around when the kid spreads it’s wings. Never abandon this friendship. Because it is what gives you strength.” Now you don’t need to be a wife, that advice was custom made for me, but rest of it can be true for you.

Well, so here it goes my stand! 🙂

I would say “No”, please don’t. It should be her choice! I would say it should be her decision to work or stay home with the kids, and most important is she ‘must‘ do what will make her most happy, not what ‘should‘ make her happy. You don’t need to convince her for which she is not ready to sacrifice. I have seen mostly women leave their job to sacrifice their career in the name of marriage and child. Though they are highly educated and can stand on their own feet, but they find no option but to give up their careers for the sake of their family. Why should it be only a father who would do a job in order to earn money? Why don’t a man find him worthy enough to take care of his child? Let me tell you honestly, a mother loves her children more than her own life. It is a mother who sees that her children’s needs are fulfilled before her own.  And being a mother she must have thought something and planned well to take such decision. If you convince her that would anyways have a bad effect on your relationship with her. So, you don’t need to convince or force her. Instead convince yourself that it’s her life, her choices, and it’s all about her decision! Respect it!!!

I think, there is a dividing line between ‘CHOICE’ and ‘SACRIFICE’!!! One must understand it. I would like to get answers for same question from all the corners as well. Let me see what others say about it.

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Tab Chuppi Todo…

Posted by Rewa Smriti on May 5, 2017

Dear All,

I feel being silent sometimes is the best possible solution or say golden practice at times when an argument is going nowhere. But there are so many women who are suffering in silence. Please understand that remaining silent is not at all a solution of suffering.

I am posting a poem which is written by one of my loving junior Shweta from JNV Katihar, Bihar. The title of her poem “Chuppi Todo” encourages women to raise your voice against the violence.

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Please help Suresh defeat cancer!

Posted by Rewa Smriti on December 19, 2016

Dear Friends,

Our brother is in real need today for his treatment. And he depends on us at this moment of his life. I will request you earnestly to donate for this cause. Whatever be the amount donated by you, it counts for him. We all know: It takes drop by drop to fill a pitcher. So, do not hesitate over the amount contributed. Be it big or small, it will go with your feelings for your brother and help him recover.

Our brothers and sisters at Delhi can also donate blood to him. His blood group is A+. Those who are in NCR/Delhi and willing to donate blood to Suresh, kindly contact us. We will be grateful to them.

We are approaching our JNV Alumni groups, family and friends to help raise the minimum required amount of Rupees 9,50,000. At the same time, we would like to extend our heartfelt thanks to all of you who have been supporting this cause : Please help suresh to fight cancer.

Some donations have come to the account of Rajkishor while some of have donated through other channels including Milap. The details of contribution made to Raj’s account and summary of donation are given below:

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For contribution, the account details are:

Name: Rajkishor Rajak

SBI A/c: 10426086232
SBI Branch Code: 11672
IFSC CODE: SBIN0011672
SBI Branch Name: Link Road, Mulund Branch, Mumbai

Email id: raajkishor@gmail.com
Mobile Number: 9619500732

Note: Please email/call/sms once any amount is transferred, if possible. We will publish details of all such transactions as we have been doing so far.

We are also accepting cheque that is to be issued in favour of Director, AIIMS, New Delhi and please contact Manish Kumar (mobile no 9582218868) to handover cheques.

Regards.

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Please help Suresh fight cancer!

Posted by Rewa Smriti on December 14, 2016

Dear Friends and Well-wishers,

Our brother is in real need today for his treatment. And he depends on us at this moment of his life. I will request you earnestly to donate for this cause. Whatever be the amount donated by you, it counts for him. We all know: It takes drop by drop to fill a pitcher. So, do not hesitate over the amount contributed. Be it big or small, it will go with your feelings for your brother and help him recover. Our brothers and sisters at Delhi can also donate blood to him.

At the same time, we would like to extend our heartfelt thanks to all of you who have been supporting this cause : help suresh to fight cancer

We would also like to give an update on Suresh’s current medical condition. The recent diagnosis has suggested that his Acute Myeloid Leukemia (blood cancer) has relapsed and he requires an immediate intervention to save his life. With the grace of almighty he has now been admitted to AIIMS, New Delhi and doctors are proposing yet another cycle of chemotherapy followed by Bone Marrow Transplant (BMT). The BMT is the last resort to save life of Suresh suffering from this serious hematological illness.

We are approaching our JNV Alumni groups, family and friends to help raise the minimum required amount of Rupees 9,50,000. Please find the details below:

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Some donations have come to the account of Rajkishor while some of have donated through other channels including Milap. The details of contribution made to Raj’s account are given below:

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For contribution, the account details are:

Name: Rajkishor Rajak

SBI A/c: 10426086232
SBI Branch Code: 11672
IFSC CODE: SBIN0011672
SBI Branch Name: Link Road, Mulund Branch, Mumbai

Email id: raajkishor@gmail.com
Mobile Number: 9619500732

Note: Please email/call/sms once any amount is transferred, if possible. We will publish details of all such transactions as we have been doing so far.

Kindly visit the website of Milap for updates: https://milaap.org/fundraisers/helpsureshfightcancer#update-section

We are also accepting cheque that is to be issued in favour of Director, AIIMS, New Delhi and please contact Manish Kumar (mobile no 9582218868) to handover cheques.

Regards.

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Navodayans, We require some Introspection!

Posted by Rewa Smriti on June 30, 2016

Dear All,

I would like to bring to the notice of my Navodaya brothers and sisters a few things here for self-appraisal. Its not that I am against anybody nor am I trying to demean anyone here. This is just my view and I always have been working this way. I am not follower of anyone, but I try to evaluate the right way, taking guidance wherever necessary, and propose the same for everyone else. Seeing the present state of Navodayans, I would like to talk about a few things here.

I have always felt that my navodaya family is doing something different which makes us feel proud and it gives us a sense of satisfaction but seeing few recent activities…it does not give me any pride nor do I appreciate such things. Pardon me if anybody is getting hurt reading this post. I am happy if anyone among you does any kind of activities for uplifting a navodayan’s life and I really admire such kinds of activities. But I discourage activities meant for momentary pleasures as they are not going to be helpful for our family in any way. If anybody is earning enough money, please value that money and invest it to help others rather just going to any five or seven star hotels to have alumni meet. We have such beautiful and large campuses in front of which five or seven star hotels have no value. At personal level you are free to do so. No one will object you…but our vision is getting diluted and I feel that we are lacking the guidance and going on the wrong track.

Secondly, the news of my brothers and sisters fighting with each other over petty issues and getting divided is also disheartening. The vision of Navodaya has National Integration as one of its pillars, and our conduct needs to be in consonance with our vision. Our opinions may differ, but the sense of being related needs to continue. So, here we require some introspection!

Hence I propose a few things here:

  1. We are all aware that JNV works to select talented rural children as the target group and attempts to provide them with quality education. Keeping this in view, we need to organize our get-togethers and other activities in a simple but profound manner and that too in our own campuses so that as many students as possible can get benefited and feel inspired.
  2. We need to work on our mutual relationships so that we work in an integrated manner, rather than getting divided as we have been taught to work for national integrity and this has been the vision of entire Navodaya.
  3. We need to expand our activities to other needy children of the society, and not restrict ourselves to only Navodayans. So our activities will be by Navodayans but for the entire Nation.
  4. We have a huge manpower, but we need to devise ways to utilize our potential in the right direction, rather than spoiling it over our own conflicts!
  5. We can make a team of guardians made up of experienced teachers/ principals/ commissioners/ deputy commissioners who will keep guiding us and evaluating our performance from time to time. For example: Nageshwar Rao sir, Rama Rao sir, Ramchandra sir, Ashok Shukla sir, Girish sir, Ali sir, D K Modi sir and many more…
  6. We can invite eminent personalities of the society for giving talk to our team which will not only enthuse them but also make us dream big for the society and nation.

It is only a proposal from me. You may agree or disagree with me over these points, and hence I invite suggestions from you for open discussion.

दुनिया की भीड़ में क्यों खो रहा, मिलेगा कुछ भी न फल जो बो रहा…

Regards,
Rewa Smriti

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Please donate to inspire others to donate…!

Posted by Rewa Smriti on April 12, 2016

Dear All,

A heart-felt thank you to all of you for your kind support and contribution. This brings us back to thanking you all, once again, for the support you have already given us for Rupesh. We truly appreciate your support!

Please find below the recent update on the donation.

 

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Additionally, Below is the summary details of the transaction.

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As many of you know that Rupesh’s brother treatment is going on and he recently got shifted to PMCH, Patna from PARAMOUNT Hospital PVT, Siliguri. With a heavy heart we regret to inform you that his condition is not good, he is still unconscious.

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Furthermore, Some of you have concerns about the money, whether it is used for the same cause as mentioned. We would like to assure you that the money is not used for any other cause; this is going to Rupesh’s account as per his requirement. This has already been discussed with Rupesh that we would attach the scanned copy of his bills for your reference. As of now his brother is undergoing treatment, the moment he gets some time from it, he would provide us the scanned copies of all the bills.


Here are the account details where you can transfer money online or offline.

Name: Rajkishor Rajak

SBI A/c: 10426086232
SBI Branch Code: 11672
IFSC CODE: SBIN0011672
SBI Branch Name: Link Road, Mulund Branch, Mumbai

Email id: raajkishor@gmail.com
Mobile Number: 9619500732

Note: Please email/call/sms once any amount is transferred, if possible. We will publish details of all such transactions as we have been doing so far.

Your generous support will make a difference! Please feel free to contact us if you have any further questions.

At last, I would like to thank Rajkishor and Anshu Shaiv for your great coordination and support. Keep it up!

Regards

 

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Kindly contribute to save a family…!

Posted by Rewa Smriti on March 17, 2016

Dear All,

I would like to mention about one of our brothers named Rupesh Kumar from J.N.V Katihar of 2008-2015 batch. He was preparing for IIT JEE, and qualified for NIT last year. But he dropped it and is preparing for IIT JEE again. He has been a sincere and laborious student throughout.

The economic background of Rupesh is not good. His elder brother (whose monthly income is about 5.5 Thousand) has been the only source of income to his family, and most of his income was dedicated to Rupesh’s study (about 4 Thousand per month). Very unfortunately, last Saturday Rupesh’s brother met with a major accident in which his head was badly damaged and thigh fractured. He is currently admitted in PARAMOUNT Hospital PVT, Siliguri. A Major operation has been done and still the treatment is continuing, while he is still unconscious. The expenditure per day at the hospital is about 30 thousand rupees, and until now huge money has been spent. So it is not possible to save a family from this worst situation without our economic support. To help, we on behalf of AINAA, would like to request you to please come forward and help the family financially as much as you can. We all would be very much grateful for this kind act.

For contribution, the account details are:

Name: Rajkishor Rajak

SBI A/c: 10426086232
SBI Branch Code: 11672
IFSC CODE: SBIN0011672
SBI Branch Name: Link Road, Mulund Branch, Mumbai

Email id: raajkishor@gmail.com
Mobile Number: 9619500732

Note: Please email/call/sms once any amount is transferred, if possible. We will publish details of all such transactions as we have been doing so far.

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Regards

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