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What does real beauty mean to you?

Posted by Rewa Smriti on December 31, 2011

This is a guest post sent by one of my friend Rewa Kheta from Nagpur. I am sorry dear for taking time to put it here as you know the reason behind it. However, this is also a last post of the year on this blog. So let me end up saying, Sayonara 2011! 🙂

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Beauty is truth’s smile
when she beholds her own face in a perfect mirror.
Beauty is in the ideal of perfect harmony
which is in the universal being;
truth the perfect comprehension of the universal mind.

                                     ——- Rabindranath Tagore

The entire concept of real beauty can be hard to define, despite being a well-known term. Everyone has their own opinions about what constitutes real beauty. One way to think about it is to consider what makes you smile in such a radiant way that it attracts people to want to be in your presence. Ideal beauty is that which is admired or possesses features widely attributed to beauty in a particular culture for perfection.

Just like Audrey Hepburn’s iconic quote:

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

There would be hardly any person who would not like to look beautiful. Over a period of time beauty slowly fades away owing to age and what’s left are signs of aging. To combat these signs, people use numerous methods like anti-aging creams, Botox, among others. They seek to keep their beauty (which they believe is physical) intact for as long as possible. This is how they fool themselves into believing that they are a thing of beauty. They earn to be dazzling and remain the centre of attraction.

Fair complexion, sharp features are not the only criteria for being beauteous. These are external factors. External beauty is like water bubble, exists only for some time. Apart from the face hidden behind those layers of makeup, there is a heart; sublime, full of love and connected to your mind.That is real contentment. You need to make yourself comely to experience the real beauty.

Helen Keller said, “The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart.”  Every single character existing on the earth is born beautiful. Moral qualities, ethical standards, principles are added advantage to real beauty. Intellect and intelligence with beauty is a rare quality. And when someone has internal and external beauty it is ‘icing on the cake’. Beauty and youth are often regarded as synonymous to each other. Balance of body and soul is much important than using a wrinkle removing cream.

Let me run ideas through my mind and see where it takes me. Let’s consider good-looking people, places, objects, amazing scenario’s at a gallery, perceptional different angled photograph or let’s drill down to a more materialistic living like the breathtaking architecture of my bungalow,  with a balcony over-looking a serene swimming  pool. I have mouth-watering food sitting on a table beside me, sending out the most heavenly aroma that is tantalizing to the mind, and tickling my taste buds.

I could go on with more description but it would be painfully mundane to read, which is why I’ll leave it as “blah blah blah.”

Having seen life under best circumstances with best resources (mom//dad/bro/friends/teacher/ money ………….. & what not) with best living conditions & then having fallen away & apart with these things temporarily, to get it back in a new format & living terms, I realize that Beauty is a very relative terminology, quite misunderstood & I dare say, quite misapplied too.

So then what’s real beauty for me?

I think & believe that the real beauty is to realize that I am able to realize, think, analyze, decimate, disintegrate, learn – unlearn, believe & still redefine my belief system or call it fine tune.

The real beauty therefore is that “I am a human”, which is the gift of nature, and I am able to realize that there is GOD in many forms & functions, many of his manifestation are even called bad & I am mutely looking at it to understand what nature is telling me.

And the real beauty based on the above idea for me is knowledge; the assimilation of different pieces of information, when put in a logical manner is invaluable knowledge.

Knowledge alone is real beauty.

Having said this, I want to say that if I place a book of esoteric knowledge of yore & some fine prints of wisdom on a donkey’s head he does not become knowledgeable. What will make him knowledgeable is the right application of that knowledge in the right place, in the right measure, at the right time, and how does one get it apart nature’s Grace? One gets it through the guru – the proverbial teacher.

Hence the Guru or the teacher is the real beauty.

The teacher, who gave me understanding and perception, of what is what & how to see it. If not for the right teacher, I could still think that 2 + 2 = 5 and still live like a donkey without realizing the 2 = 2 of life.

And who gave me the teacher? That’s a blind answer – my DAD. He put me through education both formal & informal & while giving me this he gave me as a bonus a bunch of friends from school to college, which I would filter over a period of time through experience & maturity.

Hence father is the real beauty.

And who gave me my father? My mom pointed him out, because she is the only human who actually knows the truth of whose seed made me. We all know the mom’s journey of parenting. Let me not make it emotionally touchy & elaborate on it, we all know what our mom’s are. Period.

Hence my mother is real beauty.

Now tell me how do I get a good mom, I can’t make a choice, actually no one took my permission to give me this birth – absolutely choiceless.

So the real beauty is the fact that I realize that there is someone up there taking care of my soul. Mata, pita, guru, good mitra (Friend) & god are the real beauty – put them all & mix it – it’s god’s grace.

I realize that I am a unique creation of this nature, none like me & second to none, no one has ever been created like me in eons that have passed by in this universe & there never will be one like me in the future of this universe. I am me, I am a blessing of my parents, I am the good wishes of my well wisher’s, I am the hope of all those new tomorrow’s that will unfold through me, I am the child of gratitude, the mother of all virtue’s – I am Rewa and the real beauty is I can realize it.

For me Miss Universe Sushmita Sen, Miss World Aishwarya Bachchan are equally beautiful to Maharani Gayatri Devi, Mother Teresa, Medha Patkar, Kiran Bedi, Lata Mangeshkar or a rural women working in the field all day yet efficiently takes care of her small world. Beauty is so divine that it inspired Kalidas to write Meghdoot and Tulsidas to create Ramayan.

Summary is God’s ever beautiful creation is WOMAN who nurtures and creates a new life.

Satyam Shivam Sundaram – Truth is God and God is beautiful 🙂

Regards,
Rewa Kheta
Liaison Officer @ BISWA

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11 Responses to “What does real beauty mean to you?”

  1. Gautam Kumar Ginjupalli said

    The point of discussing about beauty is waste of time. The term beauty means different to every person. Therefore an effort to define or understand what is beauty is foolish. You may spend your whole life to understand, if what is beauty in reality and never come up with a logical and satisfactory answer. It is purely relative even when you analyze your personal feelings over a period of time. The one you feel most beautiful now might turn out to be less beautiful, for your own eyes and perception over course of time. In such a situation, how can you draw the line and define, what is beautiful and what is ugly. It is just a discussion for people who had nothing to do other than mucnhing the chaff in the form of purposeless topics. It would be better you spend your time on productive issues and finding answers for the current burning problems that plague the country and the development of India, such as of the corruption and the issues related to national security.

    Gautam

  2. Deepak said

    Wonderful,Beautiful post !
    Beauty nowadays is meant only at physical beauty !
    Beautiful mind and heart are not recognized !
    http://www.deepakkarthikspeaks.blogspot.com/

  3. @Gautam Kumar Ginjupalli,

    Nice to read your views here! Thank you for coming and commenting on this blog. People can have different opinions, thoughts and topics to talk about. That’s ok! 🙂

    rgds.

  4. @gautam ginjupalli..

    beauty means how u look at things ?? what u feel when u see something ?? its not related to physical appearance alone.. if you wont find anything beautiful u will stop loving it .. and when love ends there wont be any existence of life.. so its must for every individual to know whats beauty means ?? there are hell lot of news papers and tv channels can talk about present on going issues or real time problems which u means.. blogs are written only when they feel it. it do has a message to many others who thinks that beauty is just external.. definition of beauty may change with respect to time.. the mere existence of beauty and what the hell it is ?? needs to be explained… and i guess rewa kheta did her best in achieving that.

    @Rewa kheta … its real nice post and very well explained what beauty is all about ?? i am impressed !!

  5. rohit said

    belated Happy new year Riwa…..

    Post is beautiful. Nothing else, need to say…

  6. Biomicronz said

    That’s a good post.
    It made me copy-paste a good poem titled “Phenomenal Woman” by Maya Angelou.

    Phenomenal Woman (Maya Angelou )
    ———————————————————–
    Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
    I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
    But when I start to tell them,
    They think I’m telling lies.
    I say, It’s in the reach of my arms
    The span of my hips,
    The stride of my step,
    The curl of my lips.
    I’m a woman
    Phenomenally.
    Phenomenal woman,
    That’s me.

    I walk into a room
    Just as cool as you please,
    And to a man,
    The fellows stand or
    Fall down on their knees.
    Then they swarm around me,
    A hive of honey bees.
    I say,
    It’s the fire in my eyes,
    And the flash of my teeth,
    The swing in my waist,
    And the joy in my feet.
    I’m a woman
    Phenomenally.
    Phenomenal woman,
    That’s me.

    Men themselves have wondered
    What they see in me.
    They try so much
    But they can’t touch
    My inner mystery.
    When I try to show them
    They say they still can’t see.
    I say,
    It’s in the arch of my back,
    The sun of my smile,
    The ride of my breasts,
    The grace of my style.
    I’m a woman

    Phenomenally.
    Phenomenal woman,
    That’s me.

    Now you understand
    Just why my head’s not bowed.
    I don’t shout or jump about
    Or have to talk real loud.
    When you see me passing
    It ought to make you proud.
    I say,
    It’s in the click of my heels,
    The bend of my hair,
    the palm of my hand,
    The need of my care,
    ‘Cause I’m a woman
    Phenomenally.
    Phenomenal woman,
    That’s me.

  7. @RK

    I love your beautiful striking article. It is worth reading and people must understand that every form of life has its own dignity and unfading inner beauty.

    There are many blogs out there that talk about beauty tips and beauty products but that’s just part of the “beauty addiction” and one could go on… It can not bring out your “self confidence” and the inner beauty too. So we must nourish our inner beauty!

    For me Miss Universe Sushmita Sen, Miss World Aishwarya Bachchan are equally beautiful to Maharani Gayatri Devi, Mother Teresa, Medha Patkar, Kiran Bedi, Lata Mangeshkar or a rural women working in the field all day yet efficiently takes care of her small world.

    The eyes are blinking after reading this line. 🙂 Anyway, the proverb “Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder” is so true!

    rgds.

  8. @Biomicronz,

    Very nice and impressive poem…i like it. Thank you Rony for sharing it here!

    rgds.

  9. @Gautam Kumar:

    This is what you wrote —
    The point of discussing about beauty is waste of time. The term beauty means different to every person. Therefore an effort to define or understand what is beauty is foolish:

    My views: Agreed to your point that beauty means different to every person and that’s what my blog says. I have explained beauty in all forms from parents, till knowledge till guru. But that is my view for beauty and off course its not foolish.
    FYI, I wrote this article for a competition held by dove. I never thought even in my dreams that this article would be liked so much. Though i didn’t win but the kind of comments i got were unique. And you know what who helped me in writing this article my mother who is more mature and experienced than you . If she says this is a good topic and you should write then i would no matter what the world says.

    You wrote: You may spend your whole life to understand, if what is beauty in reality and never come up with a logical and satisfactory answer. It is purely relative even when you analyze your personal feelings over a period of time. The one you feel most beautiful now might turn out to be less beautiful, for your own eyes and perception over course of time

    My views: I don’t agree to this point. Because if something is beautiful for me it would remain forever. and its completely my decision. If today there is a blooming rose on a rose plant, its beautiful and even if there is no flower still its beautiful for me. that’s how i understand beauty and have been taught to me. Likewise for a mother no matter how ugly the child is still its the most beautiful part of her life and would never fade away. If a wife is truly in love with her husband, he meets with an accident and now is paralyzed. Still while looking for a pant for him, she would look for the best. that’s beauty. it depends where we would like to see it.

    You Wrote: It is just a discussion for people who had nothing to do other than mucnhing the chaff in the form of purposeless topics. It would be better you spend your time on productive issues and finding answers for the current burning problems that plague the country and the development of India, such as of the corruption and the issues related to national security:

    My views: True, I dont have work. I work for an NGO and really i am not busy(If you think so). Its my decision whether to write about Priyanka Chopra working for agneepath or corruption eating the world. Even if the whole world is hit by earthquake and still i want to write about fashion i would because I HAVE THE FREEDOM OF WRITING. No body can stop me or say don’t write on this.

    You can express your views be it negative or positive but you can’t say that this topic is foolish, waste of time and don’t write on such topics. If it was foolish then why did you become a part of this foolish act and wasted your time. Even you write very well. Why don’t you cover the topics that plague the country. So many people are already doing it. Nobody wrote on beauty i did and i am happy. This is the best article till date for me of all my post. Even word press agreed 🙂 And such wonderful comments encourage me to write more on such topics. I think i have already written one blog with this reply.

  10. Nidhi said

    very nice article nd valid points.
    BEAUTY means d beautiful souls dat r sought wen thre is other realy in need….

  11. Lopa Sarkar said

    All the experiences of my life, have taught me the lesson to see the life positively and I am grateful to God for giving me a chance to experience beauty in different ways.

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