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Ruchi Shandilya: We will miss you!

Posted by Rewa Smriti on May 18, 2011

I had known her by two words “brave and brilliant”. She was such a bold girl, that nobody is able to believe that she could take such drastic step.  We are absolutely shocked by the news that she ended her life by hanging herself from the ceiling fan, in her apartment, near Ulsoor lake! She has worked with Manoviraj Khosla for three years and as I know, she was working for many other projects as well.

She was a loving girl for everybody in our school. We used to talk and discuss on so many things. Recently we both were planning for a Get Together of navodayans@Bangalore. I am absolutely speechless and dumbfound. We had chatted and talked till last week. On hearing this news, I checked on FB/Orkut, wherein I discovered that she had deleted all of her friends/juniors/seniors from her friend list. Perhaps, she was trying to hide herself from everybody.

During our conversations, I always felt that she was a brave girl. She was doing very well in her career. She used to talk and think about the students who were weak in studies and hence ignored by teachers. She always wanted to do something for such students. Sorry to say, we have lost an amazing girl from navodaya family.

Last month, just few days back she told me ‘didi, is sunday ko milte hain‘ but unfortunately we couldn’t meet.  I remember, when I asked her about her husband, she told me once that they both are not interfering in each others life and she wanted to share something with me so we both decided to meet and discuss the things. She said, “didi, you tell me your address as I know driving I will come to pick you up“. But before that Sunday could come, she was gone far from us, she wouldn’t come back.

Dear Ruchi, may god bless your soul and rest in peace. We love you and we will miss you forever. You will always be in our hearts…

Courtesy : Fashion designer commits suicide.

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50 Responses to “Ruchi Shandilya: We will miss you!”

  1. sarita said

    I am speechless, an outcome that cannot be compensated by any means!!

  2. Smriti said

    words r inadequate to express the grief… we miss u ruchi di!!!

  3. I am speechless, Its a very huge loss for NAVODAYA FAMILY. You will always be in our hearts. We never forget you sister.

  4. PRADEEP KUMAR said

    I am shocked by this news,i will miss you a lot dear sister.

  5. Bincy said

    This is really sad and shocking.

  6. madhubabu said

    what might be the reason?

  7. madhubabu said

    very sad and shocking…

  8. Mona Bharti said

    I had words wid Ruchi Di(on her B’day)on 22nd April, as she was in her home town(katihar) n she was very happy. She told me dat, after such a long gap she is in wid her Papa n di specially on her B’day… she was so happy n told me dat we will talk further,when she will b back to bangalore. And before dat we met in WIFW(Wills India Fashion Weak)@ Delhi, we spend four to five hours together in dat fashion weak, n found her normal as she was earlier……infact we had discuss bout our coming days related wid carrier. I always found her wid me in every decision, she is very close to me n used to discuss all d issues bt i don’t understand, Y she never disclosed n shownd ny issue related wid dis……nyways now she is no more to meet us bt i will feel her presence in my surrounding n all i can say, RUCHI DI I WILL MISS U IN EVERY WALK OF MY LYF.

  9. Satish said

    so sad.. may her soul rest in peace… hard to digest such news.

  10. MJ said

    The next day, 16th of May, 2011 Ruchi committed suicide by hanging herself, leaving three suicide notes one addressed to her father, one to Prashant and one for her in laws. As told by police Prashant went to home to pick his laptop and found her hanging from the ceiling fan. They broke into the house and got the body down and it was taken into police custody for legal procedures. Ruchi’s family was informed and her sister’s husband came to Bangalore from Kolkata to claim the body and do the last rituals as her father is too old and a heart patient. Right now her family is in shock as they had no inkling that the relationship was not going well. Ruchi never informed them all this earlier as she thought that the family won’t be able to handle the situation.

    We are not pointing accusatory fingers here. Judge her, if you must, by your own yardsticks. But we cannot let half cooked stories tarnishing the life of our friend. A friend we hold very dear. She was not the ‘hot tempered, liberal girl’ as is made out to be and we would be running out of space with testimonies to the effect. We could not protect her in life, but in death we must.

    http://in.news.yahoo.com/fashion-designer-commits-suicide-162300384.html?bcmt=464183#mwpphu-container

  11. MJ said

    In April this year she went to Delhi for fashion week, and stayed with her in laws. She confided in us that she was ill-treated there, in spite of her best efforts to please them. After returning from Delhi, she perhaps tried one last time at reconciliation. She transferred money to Prashant’s account and finally he called her back to ask for the reason. Ruchi spoke to Prashant and came to know that that he is returning on 15th of May, 2011 and would come home to see her. She was very happy in a long time and started decorating the house. She found out the flight details and went to receive him at airport. There were two flights on that from Singapore. One was at 2:00 PM and other was at 3:30 PM. She started off from her house around 10:00 in the morning but midway she got a call from Prashant saying that he is already at home. Upon returning she was given some lame excuses about some break journey which she refused to buy and consequentially there was some angry words exchanged. Prashant left home around 2:30 in the afternoon saying that he was going to get some beer. But he never came back. Ruchi went out looking for him at the usual places and waited for him for hours. He stopped answering her calls and later switched off his cell phone. She got very upset but we tried to console her and told her not to worry and that Prashant would return back sooner or later. Later in the night she found through her sister in law that he was at one of his friends place.

    Prashant started staying abroad for longer times on work, and started avoiding her by not answering her calls or replying to her on web chat. He even used to stay at some other place being in Bangalore and Ruchi used to stay all alone in her apartment and was very depressed about this.

    http://in.news.yahoo.com/fashion-designer-commits-suicide-162300384.html?bcmt=464183#mwpphu-container

  12. jawed said

    Rewa Di

    Even I am speechless. hw it can possible. last to last week i talk to her. she add me in facebook. and yesterday i talk about her to Nazmeen. She was my only classmate from Navodaya who remembered me after 15 yr.

  13. MJ said

    Both were happily married for almost two years, till Prashant started traveling abroad on work and all of a sudden started asking Ruchi to get divorced. She was in for a ruder shock when Prashant acceded that he had never loved her, had several relationships both before and after their marriage and there was no compatibility between the two. She still tried to continue the relationship believing in their love. The situation went to such an extent that Prashant did not share the same room with her. There were frequent verbal fights but she tried her best to make up her relationship. She spoke to a lot of people including her in-laws. Many tried speaking to Prashant on the issue, but it would only result in a fight and Prashant accusing Ruchi of telling things to people. So, Ruchi asked people not to talk to Prashant on the issue. She could not speak to her father regarding this and her in-laws never came up with any support and this fact is also clear from one of the three suicide notes which were addressed to Prashant’s family.

    Ruchi was in relationship with Prashant for the last 9 years and were married to each other since 2008 but they knew each other since their birth. Prashant’s family used to live at Ruchi’s house in Katihar, Bihar as a tenant. As narrated by Ruchi and her elder sister Pooja, Ruchi was virtually born into the lap of Prashant’s mother, as she used to take care of her right after birth till she was a baby. The relationship started blooming when both Ruchi and Prashant met each other in Delhi and grew stronger when both of them came to Bangalore for their studies. After a relationship of 6 years they were married to each other with blessings from both the families.

    http://in.news.yahoo.com/fashion-designer-commits-suicide-162300384.html?bcmt=464183#mwpphu-container

  14. MJ said

    THE REAL STORY!!!

    Today on 18th of May 2011, the media carried out a story headlined ‘Fashion Designer Commits Suicide’ with biased, distorted and in some cases blatantly wrong facts. Being friends of the deceased, Ruchi Shandilya for the last nine years we decided to go out with the first hand account of events that unfolded and hopefully in the process give out her side of the story.

    Ruchi was in relationship with Prashant for the last 9 years and were married to each other since 2008 but they knew each other since their birth. Prashant’s family used to live at Ruchi’s house in Katihar, Bihar as a tenant. As narrated by Ruchi and her elder sister Pooja, Ruchi was virtually born into the lap of Prashant’s mother, as she used to take care of her right after birth till she was a baby. The relationship started blooming when both Ruchi and Prashant met each other in Delhi and grew stronger when both of them came to Bangalore for their studies. After a relationship of 6 years they were married to each other with blessings from both the families.

    Both were happily married for almost two years, till Prashant started traveling abroad on work and all of a sudden started asking Ruchi to get divorced. She was in for a ruder shock when Prashant acceded that he had never loved her, had several relationships both before and after their marriage and there was no compatibility between the two. She still tried to continue the relationship believing in their love. The situation went to such an extent that Prashant did not share the same room with her. There were frequent verbal fights but she tried her best to make up her relationship. She spoke to a lot of people including her in-laws. Many tried speaking to Prashant on the issue, but it would only result in a fight and Prashant accusing Ruchi of telling things to people. So, Ruchi asked people not to talk to Prashant on the issue. She could not speak to her father regarding this and her in-laws never came up with any support and this fact is also clear from one of the three suicide notes which were addressed to Prashant’s family.

    Prashant started staying abroad for longer times on work, and started avoiding her by not answering her calls or replying to her on web chat. He even used to stay at some other place being in Bangalore and Ruchi used to stay all alone in her apartment and was very depressed about this.

    In April this year she went to Delhi for fashion week, and stayed with her in laws. She confided in us that she was ill-treated there, in spite of her best efforts to please them. After returning from Delhi, she perhaps tried one last time at reconciliation. She transferred money to Prashant’s account and finally he called her back to ask for the reason. Ruchi spoke to Prashant and came to know that that he is returning on 15th of May, 2011 and would come home to see her. She was very happy in a long time and started decorating the house. She found out the flight details and went to receive him at airport. There were two flights on that from Singapore. One was at 2:00 PM and other was at 3:30 PM. She started off from her house around 10:00 in the morning but midway she got a call from Prashant saying that he is already at home. Upon returning she was given some lame excuses about some break journey which she refused to buy and consequentially there was some angry words exchanged. Prashant left home around 2:30 in the afternoon saying that he was going to get some beer. But he never came back. Ruchi went out looking for him at the usual places and waited for him for hours. He stopped answering her calls and later switched off his cell phone. She got very upset but we tried to console her and told her not to worry and that Prashant would return back sooner or later. Later in the night she found through her sister in law that he was at one of his friends place.

    http://in.news.yahoo.com/fashion-designer-commits-suicide-162300384.html?bcmt=464183#mwpphu-container

  15. MJ said

    if the intent is to get the truth out and not put jazzy stories, then one should go through the suicide notes available with the Ulsoor police station and see the complete picture and not only the husbands opinion who indirectly killed her by forcing her for divorce which she was not ready.

  16. Archana said

    Shocking, we lost such a passionate fellow which cannot be compensated by any means.

  17. Aditya said

    It is shocking news for us
    I cannot imagine the pain of losing a young daughter, who just started her new life and career. We will definitely miss him. Kinjal joins me in extending deepest sympathies to her family.

    Kinjal & Aditya

  18. Anjan said

    sorry to hear this… R.I.P..

  19. ABHILESH SINGH said

    i will miss u ruchi di.aap hmare navod.family se thae humare beach toh nahi hai aap but aapki yaadein juri rahegi.miss u n remember u forever……………………..

  20. Dipanwita Sinha said

    I still remember the day Ruchi had joined JNVK. She was not very happy to leave her home be in school/hostel.
    Her parents always used to ask me to take care of her. That time I and Ruchi used to share same double step beds…She was like a little sister to me.I have wonderful memories of her all I even cant write here. I was also very close to her parents they were such lovely people. I often used to remember her for something….
    This news is very shocking……….we all miss u Ruchi…………

  21. very sad news…………………
    may god bless her soul……………
    she will remain in our thought…………….

  22. jagannath patra said

    really we miss you

    HOPPING GOD BLESS YOU

  23. ohhh..MY GOD…!!!!!!!!
    i m really speechless to hear this news..no body fill the place of ruchi..
    Dear Ruchi, may god bless your soul…i miss u forever…

  24. Fashion Designer Suicide Case: Other Side of Story said

    Bangalore, May 19: On Wednesday May 18, reports about a fashion designer’s suicide were rife in the media, with all sorts of speculations emerging from the issue. Ruchi Shandilya was found hanging from the ceiling fan at her apartment in Ulsoor here, and since then different versions of the ‘real story’ have appeared.

    According to reports, Ruchi Shandilya left behind three suicide notes, each addressed to her husband, in-laws and her father, in which she spoke about the mental trauma arising out of her marriage to Prashant Kumar, her childhood friend who she had married about three years ago.

    Ruchi and Prashant both hail from Bihar, and their families had been close friends much before they got married. Prashant’s family had been tenants at Ruchi’s parents’ house, and later both Ruchi and Prashant studied in Delhi and moved to Bangalore. By then they were deep into a relationship, and after getting approval from both families, they got married after six years of courtship.

    However, what was expected to be a perfect marriage, given the closeness the two shared, soon turned out to be a nightmare, at least for Ruchi. Prashant began taking long tours abroad on work, and one fine day even asked her to divorce him. He is said to have admitted that he had never really loved her, and that separation would be the best option. But Ruchi was deeply in love with her husband, and refused to accept his offer. Her friends say she tried her best to save the marriage, but there was no co-operation from Prashant in any manner. Intervention from friends made matters worse, as Prashant is said to have accused Ruchi of spreading details about their marital life. Prashant’s parents too washed their hands of the matter, and soon, Ruchi was all alone in her battle to save the marriage.

    Meanwhile, according to sources, Prashant began prolonging his foreign tours and avoiding Ruchi all together. It is said that he stopped answering her calls or replying to her on online chat. Even when he was back in Bangalore, he used to stay at a friend’s place, away from Ruchi.

    Last month, when Ruchi went to Delhi for the fashion week, she confided in her friends that she was being ill-treated by her in-laws too. She then decided to take matters in her own hand and transferred all her money to Prashant’s account, which made him call her up to know the reason for such a move. She then learnt that her husband was coming back from Singapore on May 15, and was happy about it. On the day of his arrival, she went to receive him at the airport, but mid way Prashant called her up to say that he was already home, much before his scheduled flight was to land. When Ruchi demanded an explanation, a fight ensued, and Prashant left the house, never to return. An anxious Ruchi enquired from all possible quarters as to where he was (Prashant had switched off his phone) but to no avail. Much later she came to know that he was at a friend’s place.

    The last fight was perhaps too much for Ruchi to handle, and the next day, on May 16, she was found hanging in her apartment when Prashant came to collect his laptop. In her suicide note, however, she has chosen not to implicate Prashant. Also, it was revealed that she had hid all her marital problems from her own parents and family as she believed that they would not be able to take it.

    This is Ruchi’s side of the story. Whether it is the truth or not, only time will tell. However, a young, promising life has been lost, and nothing can bring it back.

    http://www.daijiworld.com/news/news_disp.asp?n_id=102564&n_tit=Bangalore%3A+Fashion+Designer+Suicide+Case%3A+Other+Side+of+Story

  25. sudhanshu shekhar said

    Reading the comment i am fully convinced about the matter in fact all of us . what long abroad trip and staying with friends in banglore means. I am fully convince about cruality, and abetment of suicide . i am assking suggestion in regard for following point .
    1. prepare a full story draftloopholes in story and distribute it to SP/DM of katihar and banglore , woman commission of both state , NGO in this regard, local MP and Media
    2. suggest can I go to court to any place or place of crime only ( legal fraternity pleasse comment ) . Like it can be register in Mumbai high court or not .
    3. collect testimony of all her friend that there was no other reason for this extrema step .
    4. How media will take this matter ( any clue )
    5. how can we pressurize his friends that will ensure some truth will come out . Does anybody know prasant friend

  26. avnish kumar said

    shocking news for all navodayans…….

  27. AMIT KUMAR, S.NO-01, JNVK said

    Shocking news, we lost such a growing talent of jnvk which cannot be compensated by any means.

  28. Ranjeeta said

    Oh, my goodness!
    May god rest her soul.
    She was being mentally tortured by her husband and ill treated by her parents in low. I have heard from several women who have said, their parents in laws always disrespect them and expect their daughters-in-laws to obey them 100% or expect you to be a slave.
    A woman wants a friend in her husband or man she can trust and respect no matter what! She was harassed, humiliated, exploited and tortured.He is the one who took his wife’ life.He must be punished.

  29. kislaya kindam said

    relay god bless her

  30. Love is not everything. said

    Oh God!!!! how much she loved her husband.

    Girls! please talk to your relatives….share you problems. Please understand that the world is really big and problems are small. There is a solution of every problem.And Suicide can never be a solution. Reading from the above comments, we can surely say Ruchi was very strong and successful girl. But what made her to take such an extreme step?? Anyone can face this type of situation in their life. And our lifestyle is changing too fast. We will have a lot of situation like this. Girls, you need to understand that LOVE IS NOT LIFE BUT IT IS A PART OF LIFE.

    May God bless the soul…….

  31. piyush said

    May her soul rests in peace and Lord gives strength to her parents

  32. swati bubna said

    Socking news 4 all of us….
    may God bless her soul….

  33. Pushkal said

    I came to know this 2 days back & honestly speaking “BLACKED OUT” for few minutes. She was my sister’s classmate & like a sister to me. We had chatted sometime on net but never got chance to meet after I left school. But as far as I know her, she was a pearl from her batch, full of talent & creativity. I am completely agree with Rewa about her bravery, boldness & brilliance & same heard by sister but still SHOCKED to know she can take such horrible decission.

    I can only pray for peace to her soul & thru this channel urge everybody, not to take such harsh steps under any circumstances. THERE IS ALWAYS AN OPTION !!!!!!!

  34. Rahul Albela said

    IT is really very bad news, we lost one of our family member I am speechless what should I say… I don’t know.
    I wish ki she should have survived the mental trauma she reeled
    under … but she did not get support of peer groups…
    Its always better to share with someone , its cathartic .. kash ki we could have helped her in time so that such incident would have been avoided……

  35. minakshi jha said

    ruchi di we’ll misss u alwayz….!!!!

  36. jitendra kumar said

    it’s shocking news 4 us……
    me unable to think after hearing this news. i dont know what sholud i speak.
    GOD unake atma ki shanti de aur parents ko sahansilta pradan kare.
    we’ll miss u di…4ever
    jitendra
    jnv katihar

  37. 😦

  38. dev anand said

    i don’t have enough words to express my grief……..ruchi was like a sister to me…..she was the only girl from my class in navodaya who had tied rakhi on my wrist……and even after i left navodaya….she used to send rakhi & letter to me in ranchi also..after the news i am still feeling guilty of not being in touch with her for the last 7 years….
    RUCHI…….missing you a lot and nothing can compensate your loss in our life…..i have heard that “GOD ALSO NEED GOOD PEOPLE TO ACCOMPANY HIM”. YOU WERE SUCH A GOOD GIRL…

  39. Ajit Barnwal said

    really v bad & shocking news….may god bless her soul….!!!!!

  40. Ramnik said

    I quite agree to the story MJ , has written . she was my colleague and good friend and very loving and helpful person always . And what MJ has mentioned she was talking to me also about the same stuff . She really loved Prashant and out of her goodness that police shouldn’t harass Prashant , she wrote that” he was good man” . She was supposed to come to my house in Delhi , when she had come over last month for the fashion week , coz of her inlaws she couldn’t come , as they had sort of started pointing fingers at her , that probably she was lil fast and thats why problems in their marriage . I mean she tried everything to save her marriage and please her inlaws . But nothing would mover Prashant . What I can understand she being so attached to her father couldn’t accept the fact that her father would be able to bear the stress of her divorce and wherein Prashant was hell bound to divorce . Had she been alone no family pressure she would have faced this problem boldly about Prashant asking for divorce . All said and done she was a wonderful person . Lost such a loving , affectionate and all the time helpful person !

  41. mehek said

    thats realy sad,may god bless her soul.

  42. shocking news. We will surely miss you

  43. meenu said

    she was allrounder..she has all quality of a perfect girl..she love me too much.she was captain of our house in jnv and i personally attached with her.after her death i read her autograph and can’t hide my emotions.it is hard to believe that she is no more.perhaps god unhe humse jyada like karte the.may god give her peace..luv u di ..no body can take ur place..

  44. anupam said

    very sad…! God bless her soul…!

  45. Nidhi said

    May her soul rest in peace.
    1 shud hav a gr8 frnd 2 share al of ur secrets.
    she was being tortured by her husband.her husband is a self-centered bastard.

  46. amresh said

    hard to believe a girl with dat caliber can meet an end like this one. may god give strength to her dad. May her soul rest in peace…..

  47. Ajit sinha said

    The sad news asks us to look inside our-self.The big question of truth test of love.after 8 years of love how can one say ‘there was no love’.

    And if he had never loved her his 1st crime is he was liar and 2nd he married on fake promises.And again marriage is not a play where one will say that my study time has started and will discontinue the play now.Both the husband and wife should take the responsibility to make the marriage an heaven.Misunderstandings are very common things.If we look our life even at many times we don’t understand ourselves…..So ,,should we abandon ourselves too?
    Though in any case I am convinced that suicide is not the right path.Human life is very important and we should take care of it.Several times many people even take break ups in love and marry to their parents choice.The sole reason is that we shoulder the responsibility of other people too….Our Mom…Dad…other relatives…Friends and even the society.

    At the same time protesting against any will of suicide I am lodging my strongest protest against every one who doesn’t care of their spouse.One must feel ashamed of his/her act to throw someone in a mentality to commit suicide.

    I want Mr Prashant’s whole body should get tatoos saying”RUCHI I AM SORRY OF WHAT I DID WITH YOU”
    Every day he will realise his mistake and other’s too will perhaps take a lesson.
    May God give peace to her soul and strength to her family to bear the trauma.

  48. Amit kumar said

    it’s shocking news 4 us……
    me unable to think after hearing this news. i dont know what sholud i speak.
    GOD unake atma ki shanti de aur parents ko sahansilta pradan kare.
    we’ll miss u di…4ever

  49. i dont know the cause that why she did….god bless her soul…..

    if ever any nonsense thoughts comes in my mind which leads me to realisation of defeat….automatically another strong immune thought comes that ki mai itna kamzoor to nhi ki haaar jaun….

    so doston never do that…….
    every comes in life to win only…….so try to win in every circumstances….

  50. Prerna said

    It’s really shocking news abt her n today itself i got 2 know abt her from one of my navodians frnds and still in dilema;unable to accept dis truly facts.

    She was like my elder sis.When i had joined navodaya in std 6th she was in 8th std.She was from same house(Mother Teresa).She was a good painter n used to give suggestions.overall she was awesome in all extra-curricular activities.And She was so brave too,dat’s y not to guess any bad thing regarding her.

    Long back I had seen her in MG road with her husband,and I have talked to her.Missing U di a lot !!

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