कदम लड़खड़ाए!

ज़माने ने आज़मा लिया भरी महफ़िल में
एक आह तक ना निकली और तुम रो पड़े!

ज़िंदगी भी पूछ बैठी आज इस मोड़ पर
क्यूँ बीच राह में यूँ तेरे कदम लड़खड़ा पड़े!

Urgent Requirement!

There is an opening for a German Language Expert with good communication skills for management level in a reputed concern in Chennai. Interested person can contact me as soon as possible.

Note: The person must have 5-6 years of work experience.

Some ulajhta se some sulajhta!

Actually Rachnaji asked me to read her post. I read her thoughts, what I understood and whatever I felt, I penned down. After reading my reply, she said it’s not related to her post at all! Anyway, I am quoting her post below.

जिस दिन महिलाए अपने अभिभावकों से ये तीन अधिकार ले लेगी उसदिन वो समानता की सही परिभाषा को समझगी ।

अगर महिलाए समानता की बात करे तो उन्हे अपने अभिभावकों से इन अधिकारों के विषय मे सबसे पहले बात करनी चाहिये
१ जब आपने हमे इस लायक बना दिया { पैरो पर खड़ा कर दिया } की हम धन कमा सकते हैं तो हमारे उस कमाये हुए धन पर आप अपना अधिकार समझे और हमे अधिकार दे की हम घर खर्च मे अपनी आय को खर्च कर सके । हम विवाहित हो या अविवाहित पर हमारी आय पर आप अधिकार बनता हैं । आप की हर जरुरत को पुरा करने के लिये हम इस धन को आप पर खर्च कर सके और आप अधिकार से हम से अपनी जरुरत पर इस धन को खर्च करे को कह सके।
२ आपकी अर्थी को कन्धा देने का अधिकार हमे भी हो । जब आप इस दुनिया से दूसरी दुनिया मे जाए तो भाई के साथ हम भी दाह संस्कार की हर रीत को पूरा करे । आप की आत्मा की शान्ति के लिये मुखाग्नि का अधिकार हमे भी हो ।
३ आप हमारा कन्या दान ना करे क्युकी दान किसी वस्तु का होता हैं और दान देने से वस्तु पर दान करने वाले का अधिकार ख़तम हो जाता हैं । आप अपना अधिकार हमेशा हम पर रखे ताकि हम हमेशा सुरक्षित रह सके।

जिस दिन महिलाए अपने अभिभावकों से ये तीन अधिकार ले लेगी उसदिन वो समानता की सही परिभाषा को समझगी । उसदिन समाज मे “पराया धन ” के टैग से वो मुक्त हो जाएगी । समानता का अर्थ यानी मुक्ति रुढिवादी सोच से क्योकि जेंडर ईक्वलिटी इस स्टेट ऑफ़ माइंड { GENDER EQUALITY IS STATE OF MIND }

Below is quoted my reply to her post.

मैं इस पोस्ट को बहुत ही ध्यान से पढ़ी, सारे कॉमेंट्स भी पढ़ी लेकिन मुझे इस बात का खेद है कि हमारे वरिष्ठजन सिर्फ़ अधिकार की बात करते हें जो मेरी नज़र में एक सार्थक पहल नही है. जहाँ भी देखो वहाँ सभी लोग सिर्फ़ अधिकार देने और लेने की बात करते हें. बस अधिकार पाने की लड़ाई में सब लगे पड़े हें, जबकि हम सब जानते हें कि अधिकार सिर्फ़ देने ओर लेने की कोई वस्तु मात्र नही है!

आजकल हम सब लोग इस धारा में बह रहे हें कि सबसे पहले अधिकार मिल जाए, चाहे वो अपनी ज़िम्मेदारी को समझे या नही समझे, उसका निर्वाह कर पाए या नही करे, लेकिन अधिकार उसके हाथों में होना चाहिए. खैर मेरी बातें आपलोगों को शायद हज़म ना हो लेकिन यहाँ मैं एक बात कहना चाहूँगी, हमारे माता पिता को सबसे पहले हमे इतना समझदार बनने का अवसर प्रदान करना चाहिए कि हम सही और ग़लत के फ़र्क को समझकर, खुद समझ पाएँ कि हम किस चीज़ के लिए कितना अधिकारी हें. मुझे ऐसा लगता है कि आज हर इंसान को इन चार बातों पर ध्यान देना अति आवश्यक है.

1 समझदारी – जानना (सही बातों को जानने और समझने की)
2 ईमानदारी – जाने हुए को मानना (जितना जानते हें उसके बारे में क्लियर होना और accept करना कि हम इतना ही जानते हें)
3 ज़िम्मेदारी – माने हुए बातों को पहचानना (और जो सही है, उन सही बातों को मानकर सही तरीके से उसकी पहचान करना)
4 भागीदारी – पहचाने हुए ज़िम्मेदारी को निभाना

हम जितने ज़िम्मेदार होकर अपनी भागीदारी निभाएँगे हमे उतना ही अधिकारी होने का सुख मिलेगा. इसलिए ज़िम्मेदारी के पहचान से ही अधिकार तय होता है, चाहे वो स्त्री हो या पुरुष.

 

No criticism, No baiting, No ulta pulta thinking. I hope you will understand my point if I elaborate it properly. Let me first say that these three rights are desirable, if not necessary. But again, are they sufficient for a woman to live happily? If not, can we make out what will be sufficient?

Well, I was discussing something with my brother and sister when I was in Delhi. Then suddenly I said to my brother Babloo that these days most of the people are talking about equality and rights. Then he made me to understand about समझदारी/ईमानदारी/ज़िम्मेदारी/भागीदारी very logically . Again I discussed same thing with one of my very close friend and he too explained it in very clear and practical way. I analysed my thoughts and I feel this way which I have written above in my comment.

Now coming to the main point. According to me (and I would like to invite your views on it), these rights may or may not help to make better lives of women. Let me ask whether these three rights are sufficient? Ok, chalo we have been given all three rights mentioned above then what will happen? Just think, if given the rights, will it solve the problems of women? kya ham kah sakte hein ki teeno adhikaron ko milne ke baad sabhi sukhi ho jayegi or khush rahenge? After all, what is the purpous of life?

Reading above post and some of comments, I feel that they are trying to escape from the ‘ज़िम्मेदारी’ (responsibility)! It’s true that most of the people always forget their own responsibilities towards their children, parents, siblings, society or nation these days! I tell you that one can’t talk about so called ‘अधिकार’ (rights) until unless you are not able to understand your responsibility or not willing to take responsibility! At last, I would like to say that you get involved you will get rights, it’s so simple!

A Condolence!

As I had planned to take proper rest and to enjoy to the fullest with my lovely bhai and bahan, so I did! And for the last few days I have been suffering from fever, cold and cough. But what to do, I had to come back to my workplace, and finally I am back!

Today almost after 15 days of gap I checked my mailbox. There are so many mails but I checked two or three mails as I am not keeping well. I found a mail sent by one of navodaya bhai Madhu Babu, and after reading that, I got disappointed. I am quoting that mail below.

Hi Friends,

This morning(14th Sept…sunday), Yugandhar Reddy committed suicide by jumping from 4th floor of the NIMS;Hyderabad.Reported spot dead.I express my hearfelt condolences to him. And express my support to his family.

Gangadhar Battula.

Although Yugandhar fought a long and a very hard battle with life, he gave up hope and left us forever!  May God give strength to the ill-fated mother of two sons who struggled a lot to improve her child’s life. In 1999, she had lost her husband in a faction violence, and now she has lost the last hope of her life.

Friends, let’s pray together for the departed soul. May God rest his soul in eternal peace and bless his family members with the courage. I extend my deepest condolence to his family and friends.

Bihar Flood Relief Work in progress!

Let’s read about the heroism of our navodayans.

I am at IITK for the last few days, and tonight I am leaving for Delhi.

Today morning by mistake I left my mobile at my room. When I came back to my room, I found three or four missed calls from navodaya brothers Anand and Saqib. Both of them wanted to share some good news with me. I called back Anand and he was very much excited to tell me about the news. I just knocked the door of google bhai and found the relevant link. Thank you google bhaiya! Read the news quoted below.

The catastrophic floods in the east Indian state of Bihar resulted in many deaths and much hardship, but the suffering could have been much worse if it was not for the efforts of some valiant individuals.

Tens of thousands of people have been forced to take shelter in hundreds of crammed relief camps where food and clean water are in short supply.

One such hero was Anand Mohan, who has just graduated from India’s premier engineering institute, the Indian Institute of Technology [IIT] and is set to join a multinational mining company in Australia in mid-October.

After graduating from IIT, he planned to return to Sharsha town in Bihar for a week to say good-bye to his parents.

Sharsha was among the five districts hardest-hit in Bihar.

Although efforts were made to provide food and shelter to hundreds of displaced people just behind Sharsha’s railway station, supplies soon ran out. To read more click on the link http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/7606185.stm

And then I called back to Saqib. He has given me another very good news that two more of our teams are going to Supoul for the same cause. In this team we will be having doctors as well. Saqib who himself is doing MBBS in AMU, is coordinating this team and leaving for Bihar on 12th.

Really we are proud of you brothers. Anand and Shaqib, you are simply doing a great job. We feel happy when we see that our help reaches to the needy on time!

I had a meeting with navodaya alumni who are studying at IITK, and it was a good meeting with them. They are really doing good work here in IITK. To read more click here on navodaya.net

If anybody is interested in donating anything please get in touch with me writing a comment here.

Bihar flood relief activities – Live for a social cause!

Is it everyone’s tears that increases the water level for the past 15 days…..????? 

I would like to draw the attention of all to the plight of over 30 lakh people, who are desperate for food, medicine and some empathy. Please be aware that more than 20 thousand villages have been WIPED OFF. Rich or poor, now they are on the roads!

Showing you the reality….Bihar Flood. 

 

I request to all of my friends/readers living outside Bihar, holding responsible positions in government and the private sector, to help our destitute brothers and sisters.

How to contribute or how to transfer donation? Click on…… Bihar Flood Relief

Write a cheque to :

Bihar Chief Minister Relief Fund

A/C Name: “Chief Minister Relief Fund, Bihar”
A/C No: 10839124928
Bank: State Bank of India, Secretariat Branch, Patna.

Put your Phone number, name and address on the back of the cheque.Deposit the cheque to the nearest State Bank of India cheque drop box. Disaster relief State Control Room Number:: 91-612-2217305/2215027/6452572

Please mention flood relief and your name in remarks section while transferring funds. Also mention your name in the comments. For more info please be free to drop a message here.

The more important thing is we must care to see that our help reaches the needy on time!

Note: For more info Navodayans are requested to click on the link Navodaya.net

Please ask your friends and relative who may be interested in supporting this relief operation.